How can I find a suitable caregiver?
Research available child care options so that you can determine which one feels right for you and your family. Relatives, babysitters, nannies, and child care centers/nurseries all have the potential to be suitable choices. The more details that you find out about possible caregivers, the easier it will be to choose the best option for you and your child.

Talking to other parents can be a great way to help figure out what is right for you and may even lead to specific recommendations about caregivers. Ask friends, acquaintances, and neighbors. You may also consider posting your needs in appropriate places, such as the pediatrician's office.

If you are looking for a caregiver because you are returning to work, your employer may offer a service that can help you to identify potential child care options.

What traits should I look for in a caregiver?
Certainly you will want to find someone who is patient, loving, reliable, and responsive. A good caregiver should communicate easily with you and your child. And you will also want to find someone who seems respectful of you, your child, and your wishes.

Although it's hard to know with absolute certainty what a caregiver will be like when you first meet her (or him), you can tell a lot by observing her interaction with children and carefully checking references.

How can I prepare my child for being left with a caregiver?
Even before you are ready to leave your child, routinely expose your child to other adults both at home and while out and about. This will make him more comfortable with other people.

If possible, allow your child to spend time with the caregiver while you are still there. It may be easier for him to get to know his caregiver while he has the security of knowing that you are there.

Greet the caregiver warmly so that your child gets the sense that she is a friend. Remember, children take their cues from you. If you seem anxious about leaving him, your child will likely feel anxious too.

How can I prepare myself for leaving my child with a caregiver?
Spend some time orienting the caregiver about your child. Give the caregiver a complete rundown of your child's eating habits, sleep habits, favorite playthings, etc. You may want to give a written list of some key points-it may be a lot to remember, especially at first. You will feel a lot more relaxed if you are confident that the caregiver has complete information.

Remember, even if it is difficult to leave your child, getting your child comfortable with another caregiver is good for both of you. Separating from your child at least once in a while is beneficial for his social development and yours.

Any suggestions for saying good-bye when I am leaving my child with the caregiver?
Keep it as short and sweet as possible. Your child will have a better feeling about his caregiver if he senses that you are confident about leaving him.

If your child cries, don't over react. Be understanding, but firm. In most cases, the crying will end when you leave. And as long as it ends when you leave, it is nothing to worry about.

Don't try to take the seemingly easy way out-leaving while your child is asleep or sneaking away while he isn't looking. Doing so can make your child feel less secure and uncertain about his caregiver.

What if I am jealous of my child's caregiver?
If your child spends time with a caregiver on a regular basis, it's natural for your child to form an attachment. You may find that he mentions the caregiver's name repeatedly.

Sometimes you may wonder whether your child has a better time with his caregiver than he does with you. If this happens, take it as a positive sign that your child is happy and able to form relationships with other adults. It is not a rejection of you, and it doesn't mean that you don't have a special relationship with your child.

You can reinforce your bond with your child by spending special time together. You should also take comfort in the fact that if your child is happy with his caregiver, you can feel more relaxed about leaving him.